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Dear Sit Down, Honey, A friendship feels off, and I’m not sure what to say.
Most of us wait too long, then say too much. Here’s a softer place to start.
Read the reply Sample letter — not a real reader Relationships & loveDear Sit Down, Honey, My partner and I want different things for the next year.
Wanting different things is not automatically the end. It is a conversation that needs both maps on the table.
Read the reply Sample letter — not a real reader FamilyDear Sit Down, Honey, My adult kids think I should sell the house. I’m not ready.
Care can sound like pressure. Staying can sound like stubbornness. Let’s honor both.
Read the reply Sample letter — not a real reader Money & life decisionsDear Sit Down, Honey, I feel guilty spending on something I actually want.
Guilt is not a spreadsheet. A spreadsheet is not a moral failing.
Read the reply Sample letter — not a real reader Work & everyday dilemmasDear Sit Down, Honey, I’m good at my work, and it doesn’t bring me much joy. Do I stay or go?
Competence is not the same thing as calling. You don’t have to decide your whole life tonight.
Read the reply A personal note — not a how-to About the videosFrom Sit Down, Honey, Why the videos are a chair, a mug, and your letter.
The chair, the mug, maybe a cat — that’s just the seat I sit in while I answer you. I’m not here to teach a lifestyle.
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